It is finally warm outside and with this beautiful weather comes a lot less clothing and a lot more skin on display for most of us. So, today I thought it would be fitting to talk about body confidence and how I have learned to love the skin I am in.
Before jumping into it, I just want to point out that everyone experiences moments of doubt and body shaming (no matter how confident they may appear), and this is normal. However, it is important to learn how to kick negative self talk when it happens. Just remember that we are all human and all flawed in our own incredible and unique ways.
1. Get to the Root
It is easy to say “love yourself, that is the key to confidence”. But, what does that really mean?
Lack of self confidence must stem from something. Whether that be from a childhood trauma, negative self talk from a partner or friend, or anything in between. It is hard to get past your lack of self confidence without first knowing the root of it.
So, I suggest that you take a pen and paper and write. Write down and reflect on what parts of your body are not your favorite, reflect back on why and when you started feeling this way.
Once you reflect, these flaws and doubts no longer control you. You know the reason and you can now work to move past it. This will not be an easy task, but if you work at it every day, you will be able to love yourself again.
2. Curate Your Dream Wardrobe
Clothing has the ability to make or break your self confidence. This is why it is so important to curate a wardrobe that makes YOU feel good. Everyday make a conscious decision to pick out clothing that makes you feel confident and powerful. If you find that nothing in your closet makes you feel this way then it may be time for a refresher. Whether you go out and buy a whole bunch of new clothing, go thrifting, or just add a few new pieces, this can really help you with your confidence. Although body confidence should start from loving yourself on the inside, your clothing certainly does play a role.
3. Don’t Underestimate the Power of a Good Pamper
Hygiene habits and pampering sessions are important to keep you feeling confident in your own skin. This will look differently for everyone, but find what makes you feel happy and confident and try to do it often. For some it may be a monthly pedicure, for others it may be getting a good massage, for others it may be a nice bath every week. Come up with a list of pampering activities and do them often.
4. Focus on What You Can Change
It can be easy to get hung up on every inch of our body and just pick ourselves apart. But, it is uber important to remember to focus on things we can change about ourselves. Spending your time focusing on your bone structure and how you wish you didn’t have such wide hips will not do you any good, because that is apart of you. But, focusing on your thoughts, or toning up your arms, is something totally doable and under YOUR CONTROL. There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve your body, but it is all about the way you shape your mindset around the exercise.
5. Stop Comparing & Practice Gratitude
Stop scrolling through Instagram and comparing your body to others highlight reel. Stop flicking through that magazine and comparing your bare face to a photoshoped model. Focusing on yourself and your life is vital for your mental health and self esteem.
At the end of the day we are all so lucky for our skin and for our bodies. No matter what degree of limitations you have, be sure to be thankful for the body that you have. It allows you to move, live, and breathe everyday, and that is truly extraordinary.
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Your trusty, gutsy gal,